It is my distinct pleasure and privilege to introduce Kristen Jenson, Founder of Defend Young Minds. She’s the #1 bestselling author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures and Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Jr., with nearly 400,000 copies sold worldwide. I know Kristen personally and admire her work and desire to help parents teach their children about the harms of pornography. Kristen recently released a new book to help parents and girls understand the dangers of porn, and she graciously agreed to tell us about here.
Girls are not immune to pornography’s pull or its potential harm.
For years, pornography has been treated primarily as a boys’ issue. But over the past decade, I’ve heard women of many ages and backgrounds share their experiences with pornography exposure, addiction, and trauma.
Parents of daughters also repeatedly told me that girls needed a resource of their own—one that could reduce shame and help families have protective conversations.
That’s why I wrote Good Pictures Bad Pictures Guide for Girls: How I Stay Safe, Smart & Confident—to help girls recognize toxic messages, establish healthy boundaries, and build lasting self-esteem.
It took two years to write, test, and publish my Guide for Girls. The result is a beautifully illustrated read-aloud book for girls ages 7 to 12. It models warm parent-daughter conversations and includes “Let’s Talk” prompts that families can use to continue discussions. Because it does not explicitly discuss sex, it can be introduced before traditional “birds and bees” conversations, helping establish awareness, safety, and trust early.
Girls are not less vulnerable
Many parents assume girls are less vulnerable to pornography than boys. But girls are being exposed, often through sources adults may not recognize as pornography.
Sexualized content can reach girls through:
- Social media
- Video platforms
- Music apps
- Podcasts
- Group texts and peer sharing
- Stories, romance content, and fan fiction
Pornography is no longer confined to obvious websites. It can arrive through almost any internet-connected screen, often disguised as entertainment or content girls already enjoy.
Beneath that packaging, however, sexualized media can communicate harmful ideas about bodies, relationships, objectification, and self-worth.
Why parents put off the conversation with girls about porn
Most parents want to protect their daughters, but talking about pornography can feel uncomfortable. Parents may assume it is primarily a boys’ problem, worry about taking away their child’s innocence, feel unprepared, or simply keep postponing the conversation.
I understand that hesitation. But waiting does not protect girls. Preparation does.
Girls need to understand that pornography isn’t limited to explicit images. Sexualized messages can appear in stories, lyrics, and other media. Our daughters need language for recognizing objectification and understanding how media messages can influence the way they see themselves and others.
This new book helps girls:
- Reject objectification
- Understand the risks of pornography and addiction
- Develop a healthy self-image
- Respect and protect their bodies
- Make thoughtful media choices
- Talk openly with parents and trusted adults
- Build confidence and healthy boundaries
The approach is protective without being alarmist, direct without being harsh, and honest without creating shame.
What girls will learn
The book provides an age-appropriate definition of pornography and explains why it can be harmful. It introduces basic brain science, including the roles of the thinking brain, feeling brain, and dopamine.
Girls also learn to respect their own bodies and the bodies of others, understand why they should never share pictures of private body parts, and make media choices based on healthy values.
Girls need more than a warning to “stay away from porn.” They need facts, vocabulary, confidence, and a plan.
Girls are not immune to pornography’s pull or its potential harm. What can parents do? Kristen Jenson answers that question here. A New Book to Protect Girls in a Porn-Saturated World: How to Safeguard Their Self-Worth and Emotional… Share on XWhy a girl-focused guide matters
Girls are growing up in a culture that can encourage them to measure their worth by appearance, attention, popularity, or attractiveness. Pornography can intensify those messages by encouraging objectification, of others and of themselves.
That’s why the book addresses body image, friendships, belonging, emotional and social pressure, romance-driven media, and cultural messages that can undermine self-worth.
Girls need to know that their value is intrinsic. It doesn’t come from being attractive, desired, or approved of. Their worth comes from who they are—their character, values, abilities, relationships, and unique gifts.
A tool for families
Although the book speaks directly to girls, it’s also a resource for the adults who care about them.
Parents, grandparents, counselors, teachers, leaders, and caregivers can use it to begin conversations they may otherwise struggle to start. The book provides an age-appropriate framework that can turn an uncomfortable subject into an opportunity for trust and connection.
What I hope girls take away
More than anything, I hope girls gain four lasting advantages:
- An open, trusting relationship with a parent or caring adult
- An understanding of how harmful objectification can be
- A practical plan for protecting their minds
- Greater resilience against exploitation and harmful media messages
We cannot protect girls by leaving them out of the conversation.
We protect them by providing accurate information, modeling calm and compassionate behavior, and giving them a plan for responding to pornography and other harmful media.
That is the heart behind Good Pictures Bad Pictures Guide for Girls: How I Stay Safe, Smart & Confident—a warm, research-informed, family-tested resource designed to help girls reject toxic messages, resist harmful cultural scripts, and grow up safe, smart, and confident.
Girls deserve to be prepared—not naïve, not ashamed, and not alone—when it comes to pornography.
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About the author
Kristen A. Jenson, MA
Kristen Jenson is the founder of Defend Young Minds and the #1 bestselling author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures and Good Pictures Bad Pictures, Jr., with nearly 400,000 copies sold worldwide. Her newest title, Good Pictures Bad Pictures Guide for Girls, helps parents teach their daughters to reject objectification and enjoy safety, self-confidence and better mental health. All three are read-aloud books to teach young children how to reject pornography and its harms. Her children’s books are now augmented by a Guidebook for Counseling Kids which supports child therapists and educators. Her trusted resources and content have helped millions all over the world to defend children from all forms of sexual exploitation.